How do you know when you’re stuck in emotional childhood?
You want some else to take responsibility for how you feel.
It’s easier to blame everything and everyone else for your negative feelings and results you don’t like.
As a child, you were taught that what you say and do can cause others to feel a certain way.
You were always being admonished to do or not do something because what you did had the power to hurt someone’s feelings or make some someone happy.
There are no classes in school that teach you how to become an emotional adult. How to take full responsibility for how you are feeling and acting at all times.
Many adults continue to live in emotional childhood. It’s more the norm than the exception.
They resist accepting responsibility for their own thoughts, feelings, behaviors and results. They are insistent their problems are because of other people, society, the government.
They don’t know how to grow into emotional adulthood. It’s so much easier to blame something outside of ourselves for our problems.
But here’s the truth, when we accept responsibility, all the responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, actions and results, then we are truly in charge of ourselves.
That’s when all the power and control reside with us to go after whatever results we want.
You can actually chose how you want to feel, no matter what other people say or do.
This is where your super powers lie.
When you live in emotional childhood, you give away all your power to someone else. You let other’s behavior yank your emotional state like a yo-yo on a string.
Think about what that really means…
Most people have enough trouble taking care of themselves. Isn’t it fool-hardy to expect them to provide exactly what you need to feel good about yourself or solve your problems.
Instead, when you come from a place of emotional adulthood, you take control of your thinking.
You don’t blame other people or circumstances for your situation. You decide how you want to show up in the world, no matter.
Although you are not responsible for other people’s feelings, you are always responsible for your own behavior.
As an expression of the person you want to be, you act in accordance with your own values and beliefs.
Living as an emotional adult takes a lot more effort, but it’s worth it.
Managing yourself and you mind so you aren’t dependent on other people for how you feel is the real definition of freedom.
Let’s start a conversation about emotional childhood vs emotional adulthood. Where are you on the continuum?
Are you ready to move into emotional adulthood and reclaim your power and freedom?
Let’s talk. You can reach me here.