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Boundaries: Set the Limits That Set You Free To Make Weight Loss Easier

Most people think about boundaries as rules you make to put other people on notice that you don’t like their behavior and want it to change.  We create boundaries, often out of frustration and annoyance, hoping others will respond by changing their behaviors to better satisfy our needs and wishes.

But, as we know all too well, the only person’s behavior we have any control over is our own.  And even then, we can’t always make ourselves do what we want or intend to do.

The truth always has been and always will be, we can make all the demands, pronouncements, and set all the boundaries in the world and other people will do just as they please.

Although sometimes they do make an effort to satisfy our needs and wishes, that effort is not typically a result of boundary setting but of honest, authentic discussion and the give and take that characterizes relationships that are functioning well.

Understanding boundaries.

A boundary requires that you state what YOU will do if the person continues that behavior.  As in, “If you do X, I’ll do Y.”

It is not you telling that person how they must behave to earn your favor.

That’s why I explain boundaries like this: Boundaries are the rules we establish and follow that guide our own behavior.  Not anyone else’s behavior.  Their behavior is their business.

We decide for ourselves what we will and will not do and the conditions under which we will or will not do them.  We decide how we want to engage with the world based on protecting and supporting our own values and our need for emotional, physical and psychological safety and comfort.

For instance, you have not created a boundary just by  telling someone you want them to stop yelling at you when they are frustrated.  It becomes a boundary not because you explain that you want them to stop or start a certain behavior, but when you allow them to be whomever they want to be, but ADD what you will do if they start yelling.

They are free to yell, yell  their heads off if that’s what they want.  It’s your response to their behavior that establishes the boundary.

For instance, you might say, “If you are frustrated, I would rather you express your feelings without yelling.    If you start yelling at me, I will _____________.”  Maybe you’d like to leave the room, go for a drive, close the door, whatever you think best protects your emotional, psychological and physical well-being.

That’s what establishing a boundary looks like.

Boundaries are not punishments or threats to force someone to change their behavior.

They are a tool you can use to care lovingly for yourself.  Once you establish your boundaries, then you have a strategy that you will employ when yelling happens.

Wondering how to apply this tool to your relationship with food, your body and your weight?

Let’s take a look at that.

Treat yourself with the same compassion you would show a best friend.

First, you can create a list of rules for yourself that are supportive of your weight loss intentions.

Think long and hard about what you expect of yourself both when alone and when in the company of others.  Next, decide on a follow up behavior if you or someone else disregards or ignores your intention.

If you realize you have disregarded a rule or behavior you established in order to follow your food plan, you can have a ready response that does not include your mean inner critic attacking.  It can be as simple as forgoing a reward you might have established for following your plan, like listening to a favorite podcast, or holding off on adding funds to your mad money account.

When someone violates one of your own boundaries, it’s possible to react without anger or vitriol.  It is possible to act with compassion and acceptance.  It’s an if p then q kind of a situation.

I totally understand how hard it is to follow new rules and create new, supportive habits, but your needs, desires and intentions also deserve respect.

It is entirely up to you to respect them first.  You need to develop the habit of having your own back.

The problem with people-pleasing and boundary violations.

So many women are non-stop people-pleasers.  They just hate disapproval, to see a sad, disappointed or angry look on someone else’s face directed at them.

They’d rather say yes to avoid that discomfort.  Even when they wish they had the courage to say no.

People-pleasing is manipulation and you’ll end up being resentful and angry.  And that, dear friend, is your own fault.

Too many people-pleasers end up eating their resentment. We become mad at ourselves for constantly saying yes and constantly people-pleasing when we really want to say no.  Often the harsh inner critic jumps in to add her two cents.

If you never say no because you’re afraid of what someone else would think about you and you say yes when you want to say no, that’s a lie.

Now you’ve set yourself up for boundary violations. By not telling the truth and not having self-respect, you basically create a situation where boundary violations are very easy.

Learn how to say no to others and, yes, even to yourself without negativity.

Saying no is something you have to get good at so you can get good at saying yes to the things that really matter to you.

When offered food or alcohol at a party, social event or gathering, do you take what’s offered for fear of offending the person offering?   Do you eat foods outside of your food protocol because that’s what’s on the menu or being served?

When you say no, you are choosing to say no.  When you don’t say no to something, you are choosing to do that thing that you haven’t said no to. Make sure you’re being really honest with yourself when it comes to choosing.

Have high expectations for yourself and avoid behaviors that undermine them.

Expect people to push food on you, criticize your food plan or your weight loss strategies.

When people tell you how to live your life, criticize you, tell you that you’re doing it wrong or that you should do it a different way, that’s not necessarily a boundary violation.  That’s just them expressing their opinion.

But, if you don’t want to be around someone criticizing you or judging your choices, you can say to them, “You’re entitled to your opinions, but if you keep criticizing or judging my choices, I will have to ___________.”  Leave.  Hang up.  End the conversation.

Set standards that support your goals and dreams and then uphold them.

You don’t have to come from a place of anger or exasperation, just confidence that you are doing you exactly the way you want..

Let others be wrong about you.

Can you just let other people have their opinions without setting a boundary?

You get to decide.

If it gets to the point where you feel like it’s so emotionally upsetting that you’re having to work on your thinking constantly when you’re with them then, by all means, set a boundary.

Other adults can say and do what they want. We can’t control them.

Our true power comes from understanding how to control ourselves.

All we can do is remove ourselves from any given situation that we don’t like.

Establishing boundaries with others is a piece of cake compared to establishing boundaries with ourselves.

When it comes to weight loss and our relationship with food and our bodies, we need boundaries and rules to follow to actually make weight loss easier.

I’d like to help you take a deep dive into boundary setting, appropriate consequences for boundary violations and how to apply boundary setting strategies to your weight loss journey.

It’s time to take me up on my offer for your FREE Strategy Call.  Then we can discuss best next steps so you can see for yourself how to jump start weight loss by breaking through any limiting beliefs that could be holding you back.  This exploration can help you reach your weight loss goal with a lot less stress and drama.

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If you make a boundary request and you don’t follow through, you’ve actually only made an idle threat that diminishes your own self-respect and theirs for you. If I say, “Hey, if you guys don’t stop doing drugs, then I’m going to leave.” Then, they keep doing drugs and I don’t leave, I’ve just made an idle threat. If everyone starts taking off their clothes or let’s say everyone keeps swearing or whatever, I’ve basically set a boundary but I haven’t taken care of following through on that boundary for myself. That is my responsibility.

Now, that is the most common reason people do not set boundaries, because they do not want to follow through on the consequence is what we call it. If you blank, then I will. Here’s why it’s so difficult for most of us. Remember what I said at the beginning of the podcast? Most of us end up in boundary violation situations because we keep letting our neighbor come in our front door without asking. Then, we start resenting it, we start getting mad so then we have to go to the neighbor and be like, “Hey, you have to knock before you come over. You have to call before you come over.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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      • What Does It Really Mean To Eat Healthy?
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      • Despite Hedonic Adaptation You Can  Increase Your Happiness Set-Point To Make Weight Loss Easier
      • People Pleasing: Understanding Our Ancestral Survival Programming Makes Weight Loss Easier
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      • Happy New Year 2022 - Let's Talk About Living A Happy Life
      • Drop The "Stones" For Easier Weight Loss
      • 22 Things To Do In 2022 To Make Weight Loss, and Life, A Whole Lot Easier
      • Easy Alternatives to Meditation That Can Reduce Stress To Make Weight Loss Easier
      • Choose Your Word Of The Year For 2022
    • (+) November
      • How Thanksgiving And Gratitude Change People, Relationships and Brains
      • Establish Minimum Baselines To Make Weight Loss Easier
      • In Honor Of Our 10th Wedding Anniversary, Some Easy Science-Backed Relationship Hacks
      • Take Back Your Power: Reframe Restriction and Deprivation As Radical Self-Care Instead
    • (+) October
      • Create Your Holiday Food & Lifestyle Plan Now, In Advance of the Food Avalanche
      • Consider Food's Glycemic Index And Glycemic Load To Make Weight Loss Easier
      • Meet Your Body Fat --- The Good, The Bad & The Ugly
      • What Happens In Your Brain When You Give Up Sugar?
    • (+) September
      • Let Metabolic Science Guide Your Weight Loss Decisions
      • Give Yourself A High Five To Make Weight Loss Easier
      • Keep These Toxic Fats Out of Your Diet. Forever!
      • Create Your 24-Hour In Advance Food Plan To Make Weight Loss Easier
      • Deep Nutrition Is Key To Weight Loss Success
    • (+) August
      • Write A Letter From Your Future Self To Create Weight Loss Success
      • Your Mighty Mitochondria Keep You Alive So Show Them All the Love
      • The Power of Small Wins Leads To Successful Weight Loss
      • Don't Wait To Hit Rock Bottom Before Deciding To Lose Unwanted Weight
    • (+) July
      • There's Nothing Free About Sugar-Free Diet Soda
      • Debunking Intermittent Fasting Myths With Jason Fung, MD
      • Protect Your Liver, Feed Your Microbiome
      • You Can Break Free From Highly Processed Food Addiction!
      • Add Intermittent Fasting To Make Weight Loss Easier
    • (+) June
      • Break Up With Your Limiting Beliefs About Weight Loss
      • Don't Diet! Re-calibrate Your Thinking To Lose Pandemic Weight Gain
      • Time To Stop Fighting With Yourself About Deciding To Lose Weight
      • Manage Food Grief With R.A.I.N.
    • (+) May
      • Make Weight Loss Easier By Improving Your Happiness Set Point
      • The Bittersweet Skinny On The Dangers Of Sugar
      • Conquering Food Cravings: Allow Your Feelings (Part 3 of 3)
      • Conquering Food Cravings: Clean Up Your Thinking (Part 2 of 3)
    • (+) April
      • Conquering Food Cravings: Heal Your Microbiome (Part 1 of 3)
      • Use Habit Stacking To Build Upon Your Keystone Habits
      • Create Keystone Habits To Make Weight Loss Easier
      • Meet Your Amazing Vagus Nerve, The Unsung Hero In Your Weight Loss Journey
      • MYTH BUSTED: The Calories In/ Calories Out Equation Is All Wrong
    • (+) March
      • Fiber Ain't Sexy But Ya Gotta Love It!
      • Create A Doable Daily Food Plan To Nip Self-Sabotage In The Bud
      • Calm Escalating Anxiety With "Worse Case Scenario" Thinking
      • How To Stop Feeling "TRIGGERED"
    • (+) February
      • Tame Your Inner Critic, Consult Your Inner Caring Committee Instead
      • Myth Buster: Fat Makes You Fat. It's A No.
      • Drink Your Water, It's Key To Weight Loss & A Healthy Body
      • How To Make Your Weight Loss Decisions A Lot Easier
    • (+) January
      • Why Chronic Stress Makes It Harder To Lose Weight & What To Do About it
      • Busted: The Myth That Breakfast Is The Most Important Meal Of The Day
      • Exercise Is Great For Your Body and Brain, But Isn't Necessary For Weight Loss
      • Create Micro Weight Loss Goals The Kaizen Way
  • (+) 2020
    • (+) December
      • How Do you Want To FEEL in 2021?
      • Pick An Impossible Weight Loss Goal For 2021 And Blow Your Own Mind
      • Time To Create Your Holiday Food & Urge Plans
      • Don't Let Perfectionist Thinking Undermine Sustainable Weight Loss
      • 2021 Word/Phrase Of The Year
    • (+) November
      • Your Weight Loss Identity Is A Crucial Component of Weight Loss Success
      • Holiday Feasting During the Pandemic
      • Thinking And Feeling On Purpose During This Holiday Season
      • When Your Urges Trigger the "I Deserve It!" Mentality
    • (+) October
      • What Is It About Chocolate That Makes It Healthy And Addictive?
      • Stop Decision Fatigue From Diminishing Your Weight Loss Willpower
      • Your Gut Microbiome Influences Weight Loss So Let's Optimize It's Health
      • Learning To Love Your Body Exactly As It Is Today Makes Weight Loss Easier
      • Achieve Successful Weight Loss Without A Diet
    • (+) September
      • Are You A Victim Of Diet Culture Because You Want To Lose Weight?
      • Your Unique Weight Loss WHYS Anchor Your Process
      • Why Traditional Diets Fail And How To Lose Weight Anyway
      • Yes, There Really Are Good And Bad Foods. Now What?
    • (+) August
      • When Self Care Veers Into Self Sabotage
      • How To Conquer Scale Anxiety
      • How To Have A Happier Marriage Despite Seemingly Intractable Problems
      • How To Stop Hurting Your Own Feelings
    • (+) July
      • Use Emotional Accountability to Create the Life You Want
      • What's The Counter-Intuitive Secret To Feeling Joy And Gratitude?
      • Let The Story Of The Three Bricklayers Strengthen Your Marriage
      • Honor Your Dreams and Desires
      • Think About Your Future Self: Wonder Who You'll Become?
    • (+) June
      • When Frustrated By Gridlocked Conflict in Your Marriage, Become A Dream Detective To Break The Impasse
      • Where To From Here In Light Of The Black Lives Matter Protests?
      • Daily Relationship Maintenance Sounds Hard, But It Doesn't Have To Be
      • How to Strengthen Your Resilience When Life Hands You Lemons
    • (+) May
      • Living The Good Life: Self-Compassion--- A Skill Worth Cultivating
      • Arguing With Reality Is A Futile Endeavor, There Is A Better Way
      • You Can Believe New Things, So What Do You Want to Believe?
      • Use a List Format to Easily Capture Your Thoughts and Experiences of COVID-19
    • (+) April
      • Don't Let Covid 19 Infect Your Marriage
      • Is Weight Loss On Your 2020 MUST DO List? It's Still Doable.
      • The Quarantine 15: What's Covid 19 Got To Do With Weight Gain?
      • Social Distancing Provides the Ideal Opportunity for Difficult Relationship Resets (Part 3 of 3)
      • Social Distancing Provides the Ideal Opportunity for Difficult Relationship Resets (Part 2 of 3)
    • (+) March
      • Social Distancing Provides the Ideal Opportunity for Difficult Relationship Resets (Part 1 of 3)
      • Loving What Is In The Time Of COVID-19
      • Loving Your "Good Enough" Marriage
      • How To Improve Your Relationships With Difficult People In Your Life
    • (+) February
      • Compound Interest & Magic Pennies: It's the Little Things That Make Your Marriage Awesome
      • How to Avoid Doing the Wrong Things By Default in Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)
      • How to Avoid Doing the Wrong Things By Default in Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)
      • What Does Valentine's Day Mean To You?
    • (+) January
      • Are You And Your Partner A WANT MATCH?
      • Negativity Bias: Which Handle of the Jug Are You Grabbing?
      • Your Thoughts Are The Fuel That Drive the Course of Your Marriage
      • Easy Habit Up-Grades to Deepen Your Connection
      • How You Tell Your "How-We-Met" Story Matters
  • (+) 2019
    • (+) December
      • 20 for 2020 Challenge: What 20 Projects, Activities or Goals Would Spark Joy in 2020?
      • Do Negative Thoughts About Your First Marriage Still Anger and Upset You?
      • Start The New Year With An Easy Gratitude Project to Boost Your Happiness All Year Long
      • How To Jump Off The Blame Game Hamster Wheel & Create The Life You Want
    • (+) November
      • Want To Feel Happy No Matter What? You Get To Decide.
      • What's Your Word of the Year for 2020?
      • Create Your Marriage Manifesto: Choose How You Intend to Show Up in Your Marriage
      • Make It Easy to Love Your Husband Just as He Is
    • (+) October
      • Prepare Now To Manage Family Drama During the Holidays
      • Your Brain on Questions: Helpful Questions to Stimulate Your Brain to Solve Your Problems
      • How to Shift From Self-Criticism to Self-Compassion
      • How Emotions Happen & How You Can Control or Change Them
      • Do You Crave Comfort Foods After a Tough Day?
    • (+) September
      • What to Do Next When Your Comfort Zone Becomes Uncomfortable
      • Let the Children Lead the Way to Love
      • September: The Other New Year --- It's Time to Set Some New Intentions
      • How to Stop Worrying about Other People's Opinions of You
    • (+) August
      • Our Anger Iceberg and What It May Conceal
      • Hey, Wonder Woman, Use Your Innate Super Power to Manage Your Emotional Life (Part 3 of 3)
      • Hey, Wonder Woman, Use Your Innate Super Power to Manage Your Emotional Life (Part 2 of 3)
      • Hey, Wonder Woman, Use Your Innate Super Power to Manage Your Emotional Life (Part 1 of 3)
      • How to Complain Effectively in 3 Easy Steps
    • (+) July
      • Unconditional Love
      • How to Have a Constructive Conflict Discussion with Your Husband
      • How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together
      • Neuroplasticity: Your Brain on Change
    • (+) June
      • Your Money Rules: How To Manage Your Conflicts About Money
      • What Are the Minimum Baseline Behaviors You Should Expect From Your Adult Stepchildren?
      • Which Indulgent Emotions Are Holding You Back From Having the Life You Want?
      • Your Brain on Kissing in Your Marriage
    • (+) May
      • Creating Happiness: Easy and Free Activities to Shift Your Frame of Mind
      • Attitude of Gratitude:  The 30 Day Practice Challenge
      • Your Brain on Gratitude
      • We Can Thank Our Ancestors for Our Negativity Bias
      • Do the Thing You Think You Cannot Do!
    • (+) April
      • How to Cope When You Think You're Owed an Apology that Never Comes: A Case Study
      • How to Ease Your Pain and Suffering
      • Cut the Strings of Emotional Manipulation
      • Boundaries
    • (+) March
      • Toxic People in Your Stepfamily: Rethinking Your Relationships
      • Difficult Relationships
      • The Manual: Your Rules, Expectations & Preferences
      • Are You Stuck in Emotional Childhood?
    • (+) February
      • Problem Solving 101
      • My Stepfamily Journey: My Guy (Part 5 of 5)
      • My Stepfamily Journey: The Wild, Wild West of Internet Dating (part 4 of 5)
      • My Stepfamily Journey: Unproductive Therapy & Divorce (Part 3 of 5)
      • My Stepfamily Journey: My Arranged Marriage (Part 2 of 5)
    • (+) January
      • My Stepfamily Journey: My Four Stepfamilies (Part 1 of 5)
      • Worry Robs Today of Joy
      • 5 Easy Bonding Rituals to Strengthen Your Marriage Connection
      • Second Marriage Solutions Welcome

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