Whaaaat! That sounds crazy!
No, you don’t really mean IMPOSSIBLE do you?
Well, yes I do.
I know this idea might strike you as a very scary, even a ridiculous proposition, but rest assured, there’s a method to my madness.
Why are you asking me to pick an IMPOSSIBLE weight loss goal for 2021? Is that really supposed to blow my mind or send me into a full on spiral of depression and shame, you might ask.
Fair enough. But hear me out on the magic of picking an impossible weight loss goal for 2021.
First of all, more than ever we deserve to start 2021, the year of the Covid-19 vaccine and light at the end of the tunnel, with a challenge worthy of the year we’ve just endured.
Maybe you’ve gained the Covid 15, or 19, or more due to stress induced overeating and over drinking, especially through the holiday season. Maybe you’ve experienced more loneliness, sadness, grief and despair than you’ve ever endured before.
Or maybe it’s finally time to keep that promise to yourself to get your weight under control once and for all.
Why you need to pick an impossible weight loss goal rather than a “realistic” one.
So, let’s say you want to lose 50 pounds. Or just pick any aspirational number that you dream about. The only important factor is that it breaks your brain because it screams totally, ridiculously undoable.
The more unrealistic it feels today, the better.
Why go for the most impossible number?
Because it opens up your brain to think new thoughts that you’ve never thought before.
And it’s those new thoughts that will provide the fuel to drive your actions toward your results.
One of the key reasons why you want to have that big goal out in front of you is because you want to have a reason to endure the failures that are SURE to come as you pursue it.
You want to have a reason to keep going, even when results or evidence just aren’t there yet.
Impossible goals are outside of your comfort zone. That’s where the big wins reside too.
It’s extremely rare that you are going to set an impossible goal out of your comfort zone and only have wins all the along the way to it.
So, set a big audacious goal for yourself and blow your own mind as you “fail” your way forward. You are getting yourself primed to go places you’ve never been before. You are going to grow and change and achieve some, if not all of it, eventually. That is if you hold on and don’t quit.
You will learn how to think from the person who has achieved that impossible goal. To get excited about it. To create a vision of what success looks like to you. Then just do whatever action, decision or task is in front of you today. Wash and repeat.
That is exactly how you will get to your impossible goal.
Looking to the past for evidence that you can accomplish your goal is a fool’s errand.
Now of course you won’t believe it yet because it’s “impossible.”
Expect internal resistance. Expect your brain to tell you that it’s impossible, that you’re crazy, unrealistic or just deluding yourself. Expect that your negative inner critic will scoff at the very idea. You’ll have to tell that brain of yours to settle down because there’s no turning back.
Thought work is the tool to help you learn how to identify with your impossible goal.
Start the process of aligning your thinking with this goal by imagining your future self at that goal weight.
You will need to teach your brain to believe that you can attain that goal weight.
Imagine yourself at your impossible weight. Create a strong mental image of the women who has achieved her goal. Visualize her in exquisite detail. J0t down some notes about what you see in your mind’s eye.
- What activities can she do with ease?
- Where does she shop?
- What does she prefer to wear?
- How does she feel in her body?
- What is she thinking about her relationship with food, her body and her weight?
This is the raw material you need to know so you can align yourself today with your future goal.
Then you have to practice thinking from that place,. In time, you will start believing from that place. Start mentoring yourself from that place.
Generate the vision and the excitement and the emotion that come from thinking in a way that is beyond your current capacity.
Here’s how to bridge that gap between this impossible goal and where you stand today.
I’m sure you’ve heard the cliché, “The journey of 1,000 miles begins with a single step.” So true.
That is really how you get there. One next best step after another.
Your only job is to think about what you need to do today.
Think about the Super Bowl as a metaphor.
And if you think accomplishing little tasks or goals today won’t get you to your big goals, you’re wrong.
You’ve got to stay focused on what you can do right now to help reach your goal. Maybe you can’t lose three pounds by tomorrow, but you can follow your eating plan today. One day at a time.
And even if you’re not getting the results you want, you can STILL keep taking that next best action.
It’s the small consistent actions that add up to the big win.
Do you know what doesn’t create the results you want?
Quitting, giving up, telling yourself you’ll never be able to lose the weight.
Insisting that your impossible goal is utterly impossible and refusing to take action will never get you there.
What gets you there is continuously taking the next best step. Making the next best decision. Even if you fail. Even if you don’t get the results you want.
You just keep going, no matter what. This was the message I repeated over and over again in my journey, especially when I wasn’t seeing the results I wanted.
Try to remember, everything you try is a step in the direction of your impossible goal.
What’s your big, scary, impossible weight loss goal for 2021?
I can help you every step step of the way to figure out how you will win, and lose, your way to your goal.
Winning, losing, learning, it’s all part of the weight loss journey.
Please reach out to me to schedule your FREE Strategy so you can begin to achieve your impossible dream.
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