What you perceive as a problem for you isn’t necessarily a problem for someone else.
Any problem you have is actually created by your thoughts about the “problem.”
Circumstances and events in your life are neutral until you have thoughts about them. Those thoughts are the sentences in your mind you’re so used to hearing on a daily basis.
All the chatter. All the self-talk.
We unintentionally interpret events based on our previous experiences, our judgements, values, prejudices, and opinions.
In order to conserve energy, our brains operate most efficiently by resorting to our default thinking. Our default thinking may create a problem where one does not need to exist.
A problem becomes a problem because of your thoughts about it.
However, we can disrupt our default thinking about any circumstance or event by deciding to think different thoughts at any time.
Sounds like magic to you? Here’s how.
Step 1: Identify the problem.
- Write down one sentence about your problem without using any descriptive words.
- No adjectives, adverbs, interpretations, values, judgements.
Step 2: Identify your thoughts about the problem.
- Notice what thoughts come to mind about the problem.
- Write them down.
- Question whether each thought is helpful or not?
Step 3: Activate your curiosity.
- Take a step back from the center of the problem.
- Look at it with curiosity from the outside edges of the problem.
- You get to decide what kind of a problem you have.
Step 4: Now it’s time to think about what you really want.
- Look at the problem from another perspective.
- Tell a different story about what the circumstance or even could mean.
- What outcome do you really want?
- How do you want to feel about this perceived problem?
- Why aren’t you feeling this way?
Step 5: Brainstorm solutions.
- Generate a list of solutions without editing.
- Review your list and identify a solution to try first.
- Ask yourself,” What is the next best step?”
- What intentional thoughts could you think to help motivate you to take the next best step?
How you think and feel about any problem is your choice.
Think about how empowering it would be to approach problems from a place of curiosity, peace and calm.
What do you wish were different or better about the way you solve problems?
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